Draw a line such that you have two columns and can, in one list the positive aspects of control while listing in the other the negative.

Positive and negative might defined by anything: when you feel in control, with whom, or what’s positive and negative about control itself.

Admitting that yes, there are times we want to be free of control altogether–mediatiang, dancing, with freinds–and that anything you might consider positive or negative in relationship to control can go on one side or the other, can you now make a short list fo each in the appropriate columns of your ledger?

Then underline or circle or highlight one thing on the negative side and declare that a villain.

Then spend a few minutes–you may need crayons and markers and colored pens–to draw the super-hero of yourself, the one that defeats that very villian.

Now, knowing that the above means to bring to the fore an issue you may wish to address as well as a way of defeating it, I suggest you think of your super-hero’s smallest actions.

For as with anything, the way to take it on, after seeing it made big or of cartoon self-awareness, is to consider what you might do today, tomorrow, and the next day, which can be routine, tiny and heoric: you, in control as you wish to be.