Yes, well, you do need to  train the dog.

This came from an excellent father, observing a child whose parents refused any and all restraint on progeny and who had learned that tantrums always worked.

How well that child will survive adulthood is not the story here.  And if you find the statement offensive, well, O.K.  The dad is hardly a hard ass and surely we all need some training, a little guidance that we cannot get all we want.  Freud says that there is not enough love in the world for even one child and it is those tryants who never learned to curtail (or laugh at) the want for all which now threaten us all, just as the little tyrant in each of us threatens our day.

But the point is not that we need to train the dog of ourselves or our children better but train the system to train better and to care less about the training.

Charles Davies says We Are Not Machines and you have to wonder if there anything that pre-programs our living or mechanizes ours days as much as the systems that serve money or which money can put into its service.